Texting and Dating

When it comes to dating, the stigma that used to be attached to online dating is

SMS: Text Messaging Gets Redesigned
SMS: Text Messaging Gets Redesigned (Photo credit: pouwerkerk)

disappearing.  But online dating also leads to a variety of other methods of communication online.  Are these good or bad?  I will let you decide.

I find these days, I meet people online via email or the sites chat platform and if we connect, we move elsewhere.  There are several messengers out there or there is Skype.  Everyone has a preference and texting seems to be the more popular method of choice.

While there are definite advantages to texting with dating there are also disadvantages.

Availability

A benefit to texting is that it is instantaneous.  You can ask someone a question or make a comment and get a reply back immediately provided they have their phone.  But at the same time, we are used to this and we run into people who may not be as committed their phone and it can be frustrating waiting for a response.

Pavlov’s Dog

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel like I am in this experiment and I come running and drooling expecting a reward when my phone makes a noise.  Maybe it is a reward as I have something to look at and reply to.  But this can definitely take away from meeting and dating, especially if you are always looking at your phone while out.  I have gotten to the point where I put my phone in my purse and silent it.  That said, I might take a bit longer when I go to the washroom as I’m checking it (usually just checking in with friends to let them know I’m fine)

Spontaneous

If you are a person who is spontaneous, having a cell phone can add to it.  You can be in touch with someone and say, hey, whats up?  Wanna go for coffee?  and next thing you know, you’re having coffee.   I have done this several times.

Changes to Plans

A great benefit to phones is that if you are running late, or you need to make a change to plans, you can get in touch with the other person.  I have had times where I end up running late for whatever reason or I have to make a stop before I can meet up.  This is one of the good benefits of a phone.

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