First of all, to answer this, we really need to look at what kinky means. But when I try to search it on the Net, I get all sorts of answers as to what sexually kinky means. Maybe we need to define vanilla first and go from
A description of what a culture regards as standard or conventional sexual practice. Often, it is interpreted as sex which does not involve elements such as, BDSM, kink, or fetish activities. Usually defined as boring, plain sex. But, a vanilla lover would regard it as making-love, passionate sex.. – urbandictionary.com
I don’t know a heck of a lot of people whose entire sex life would fit into that definition. Many of the people I know have brought some level of kink into their home and bedroom. Whether it is a set of fuzzy cuffs or using a tie for a bit of bondage, I would imagine that many have tried something like that. Kinky may include the use of toys in the bedroom depending on your own personal definition.
If you are someone who sees themselves in the vanilla definition but want to spice things up, the above items might be a good start. You can buy a set of cuffs without too much embarrassment and if you do not have a tie in the house, chances are you have something else within your home that will work instead. Use your imagine – pantyhose, a string, bungee cords – just be careful that nothing will pull too tight and harm your partner. And you are not limited to using these things on the female in the relationship, there are many men that enjoy the use of these things on them.
A few things you can try:
- Handcuffs – Cuff the wrists, cuff the ankles, cuff a wrist to a bedpost or other object, cuff above the head
- Tie – Same as cuffs but more flexible, blindfold, use to tease your partners body
- Feather – Tease over your partners body, tickle