I recently read this quick non-fiction book about BDSM: Whip Me, Beat Me, Make Me Write Hot Sex by Tymber Dalton.
Perhaps you are interested in writing BDSM stories. Perhaps you are interested in learning a little more about the BDSM lifestyle. This short non-fiction book is a great one to read, regardless of your reasons for picking it up. Author Tymber Dalton’s is familiar with the BDSM lifestyle, her knowledge stemming from first-hand experiences and observations, and from interviewing others who practice the many various forms of BDSM. The conversational tone of the short book keeps the topic engaging and interesting, without sounding overly instructional or preachy, making the book accessible to a variety of audiences.
Near the end of the book, Dalton provides a chapter full of additional resources. This is fantastic – especially for the BDSM newbie or curious. Unfortunately, since I read this as a Kindle e-book, something I do on my iPhone, I wasn’t able to easily check out the websites she mentions. The links are there, but since I would like to look at them on my laptop, not my smart phone, it required a little more effort on my part; i.e. accessing them through my Kindle Cloud, which I had not previously done with any e-book. As I get around to exploring the various suggested resources, I will share my views on them.
Dalton’s tips for “What NOT to Write” (the title of Chapter Five) are excellent, regardless of the type of sex about which you are writing. Her first tip is especially important for all writers, even if there is absolutely no sex in their stories. Do your research. I, for one, am enjoying doing research for my current writings!
After reading this book, I started a fiction piece that had a BDSM slant. I couldn’t finish it. I couldn’t even get more than a third of the way through it, as I kept thinking of the stereotypes that Dalton cautions against. Many of them were used within the first couple of chapters, making me unable to get into the story.