personal lubricant 101

There are many types of lubricant that can be used for sexual play. Many factors contribute to the need of using lubricants during sex. Some women, even though very aroused, may not produce enough natural wetness and therefore may need a little assistance from a bottle. If you are participating in any type of anal play lubricant is extremely important.

There are three main types of lubricant: water based, silicone based, and oil based. When searching for lubes, you might see some advertised as “anal lube”. These usually have a numbing agent added to lessen the pain often associated with anal intercourse.

Water based lubricants are safe to use with condoms. They are often less expensive and more easily found than other types of lubes. Unlike other lubricants, they have the added advantage of being easier to wash off the body – and less likely to stain the sheets! Water based lubes can be used with any type of toy material.

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Silicone based lubricants, unlike water based ones, are not absorbed into the skin. This means soap and water will be needed to wash off after playtime ends. They can be more expensive, but a less is needed. This type of lube is also safe to use with condoms, but avoid using with silicone toys. Want to have some playtime in the shower? Try this type of lube!

Oil based lubes, such as mineral oil, baby oil, and Vaseline, must be washed off with soap and water. You can only use oil based lubricants with polyurethane condoms. Also avoid using with toys and items made out of latex.

There are many styles of lubes available – including flavored, numbing, warming ones. Have fun experimenting with the varieties!

One note of caution: If you are trying to conceive, pay careful attention to the ingredients in the lubricant you are using. Some lubes may contain spermicides – which are very counterproductive to trying to get pregnant!

Non Toy Recommendations by Sylvie

Looking for a gift for that special someone on your list?  You can’t go wrong with the items on this list.  No woman on your list to buy for?   Feel free to send me a gift from this list!

Massage Lotions and Book

Chances are the lady in your life is overworked and does not get a chance to relax much.  Consider buying slippery to give her a massage with.   Incorporate a massage into your lovemaking and she will be that much more relaxed which will benefit you both.

Plant LPlantlife Oilsife Oils

A natural massage oil that absorbs into the skin and doesn’t leave you feeling sticky or slippery.  Ideal for a great massage.

Kuma SutraKuma Sutra

Five2 oz bottles of massage oil to allow you to see what scent you like the best.  Comes with a handy carrying case to take with you if you are renting a hotel room for an evening of relaxation and romance.

Not only do you need a lotion for giving a massage but learning how to give a massage is a great idea.   Read up on the technique and surprise your love with their own massage.

World’s BWorld's Best Massageest Massage

This book teaches how to give a massage and a variety of different techniques.  Try them all and see what your partner likes the best.


You Knead MeYou Knead Me

Who doesn’t get sore feet?  This book is designed to teach you how to give your partner a wonderful food massage.  Who knows what it may lead to.


ConConnecting Through Touchnecting Through Touch

Learn how to communicate and touch your partner with this book.  Great gift for both of you to learn another method of communication

I recommend that you give her the lotion and some coupons for massages.  The massages should be at least ten minutes in length and sex should not be a part of the coupon.  Keep the book for yourself and surprise her!


Corsets are hot, no doubt about it.  No matter the body shape, with a corset any woman can have a wonderful hourglass figure.

If your lady is plus size, head on over to Hips and Curves for a wide assortment of corsets.  Have a fantasy of your woman in something white and pure, they have it.  Want something in red and smoking hot, yep, you can find it.  I can’t even start to list which ones I want!











Have you thought about getting a costume for your lady?  We all know that any clothing doesn’t stay on that terribly long but it’s a great way to play out that fantasy that you have.   Xandria can help you try out these fantasies with costumes of a  school girl, lady cop, French maid and more.

Mrs LawNurse