I don’t know if it is just me or maybe the guys out there are shy. Many times, I will chat with a guy, and if the conversation is going well, and I am the one who has to bring up the concept of meeting.
Sometimes we have spoken generally about meeting up, but then, when it truly comes right down to it, it is usually me asking them. It’s usually a “hey, wanna get coffee?” type thing not a “hey, let’s go on a date!” But isn’t that a bit of the tables being turned as men are supposedly taught that they should be the man and they should do the asking as a result?
Lucy and I are talking about this as I am writing this post. My comment to her is, aren’t men taught that they have to be big and strong and that they should be the man and take the initiative? And she says yes, they are, but that may not be their true nature and that is what you are seeing when you talk to these men.
Maybe it isn’t that they don’t want to be the manly-man but they are letting me take the lead to show whether I am interested or not. On the dating sites, the men definitely outnumber the women and maybe they think that I am just talking for the sake of talking to them and do not have any further interest in them. They don’t realize that if I am open to chatting outside of the site, that I am interested in them, so far. Of course, that may change once I meet them in person but obviously they have told me something that intrigues me at that point.
And let’s not get started on who pays when you meet!