Cost: Limited abilities as free, membership gives you more access
Even though it is called friend finder, it is a sex site. That said, there seems to be a lot more talk than anything based on my experience. But I included it for a reason. I have met more guys on this site than any of the other sites.
One of the freebies for people is the ability to use the instant message, the group chat rooms and the community forums (I haven’t posted here). As a result, I have chatted with any more people than on the other sites. And while the majority of people are looking for sex, I rarely get to the stage where I meet up with them. Many disappear when they see my picture (even though I tell them up front I am a BBW) and many times, if we do meet, there is no attraction to take things further.
If you are female and new to the site, be prepared to be overwhelmed. There is a lack of females on the site and as a result, you are fresh meat, literally and figuratively.
In talking to a male acquaintance on the site, it is much easier to find a guy that is willing to hook up than a girl, which does not really surprise me. But I have heard that the girls on the site can be quite aggressive as well.
No matter your gender or what you are looking for, you will be propositioned by couples and by men. Even men that have it in their profile that they are 100% straight tend to get these messages.
Note: I am currently a gold member as apparently my profile has had enough visitors, etc that I am a “favourite” visitor. I have been on the site for a year. It is a two week upgrade but it has been renewed three times as of writing. Gold Members can see full profiles and possibly other things which I have not played with.
I think it really depends on what you want to find on these sites. If you are looking to chat, there are always people hanging out on AFF on the instant messenger. Not everyone is there looking for sex and it is possible to have some good conversations.
I find on the actual dating sites, people disappear a lot faster. Maybe it is because the guys are hopeful on AFF if they talk to you long enough, you will be willing to get naked with them.
I find it interesting that even though I live in a city with a population of 250,000 including surrounding areas, I have run into the same guys on multiple sites. I think I am up to 5 now that I have seen on various sites.
3 on POF and AFF
1 on AFF and Eharmony
1 on OKCupid and AFF
Read my review of the dating websites: Meeting People Online – Dating Sites and More