Book: Jack Who? (Silver Strings G Series) by Lisa Gillis

Marissa has just broken up with her fiancé, after catching him in bed with another girl.  Olivia feels that the best way to get over a man is to get under a new one so they head out to a rock festival.    While Olivia is able to get a backstage pass for herself, she cannot get one for Marissa, but that is no problem as she is able to get the both in with a sexy look at one of the roadies.     jack who

Olivia quickly decides to stay with the roadie and hopefully meet some actual performers as promised.  But Marissa decides this scene is not for her.  As she heads to leave, she finds a lost puppy who obviously belongs to someone.  Finding a couple guys to ask about the puppy, they direct her to the bus that holds the dog’s owner inside.  Marissa quickly heads over there to return the puppy before she heads home.

After a quick misunderstanding about how Marissa has gotten there and her motives, Jack realizes that she is not there for any ulterior purpose.  The two seems to have a connection which causes them to make some decisions which will change their lives forever.  Can they both be happy with these decisions or will they be miserable after?

My opinion:

The book was a little confusing, I think the author may have gotten a bit ahead of herself in a few spots as I had to go back and re-read as I felt I had missed something.

I wonder about Marissa and how believable she is as even though her and Jack don’t have a relationship for a long time.  With his popularity and fame, she does not seem to have spent any time trying to find out anything about him through the Internet.

Note:  First book in a series;  there are no real sex scenes in this book.

Buy:  Jack Who?

Setting Your Limits

I always thought that limits were black and white, but I have learnt recently that they can be grey (aka soft limits).  That doesn’t mean that you have to change your limits, it just about thinking of them in a slightly different way.  I thought that certain types of play either happened or didn’t happen but didn’t consider that there are many different elements within each play type which is where conversation and discussion come into

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Setting Limits (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

play.

Hard limit:

A hard limit is something that must not be done. Violating a hard limit is often considered just cause for ending a scene or even a relationship.

Soft Limit:

A soft limit is something that a person hesitates about or places strict conditions on, but for which they will still give informed consent. An action could be prohibited except under specific circumstances or an area of discomfort that someone wishes to avoid. Soft limits can also be something that requires a cautious approach or while appealing, still generates an uncomfortable amount of fear.

(definitions courtesy of Wikipedia)

So if you are wondering what that means, here are a couple of examples to help you out.

  • Hard Limit:  Anal play
  • Soft Limit:  No penis in the anus but fingers and tongue can are allowable.

I had been told that my limits were too strict but then when it came down to actually talking about them and what I was and was not willing to accept, many of them became soft limits.  I was willing to engage in some elements of those items that were on the hard limits list but there were some elements that were still off limits.  In some ways, my list is likely longer now but those items on it are much more specific than they were.  It allows for easier satisfaction of both partners as well as being able to cross some fantasies off the list

– Sylvie

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Book: Guilty Pleasures by Niyah Moore

We are slowly introduced to the six main characters in this book:    Guilty Pleasures

Hassan Walker, husband to Roxi, who has been visiting the gentleman’s club called “Sugar Hill” for the past year.  He has a favorite, Cinnamon, who he comes to see every week and who he fantasies about but knows that it can go no further.

Roxi Walker, wife to Hassan, who is also Dawn’s assistant and who is having a secret affair.  But when Hassan finds out, her offers her an ultimatum:  him or her lover.

Dawn, Roxi’s boss, who is having an affair with a married business man.  It means nothing to her except for sex as she wants to be with someone else.

Cinnamon, Hassan’s favorite dancer, but one night, things go too far between her and Hassan.   What will this mean for their time at Sugar Hill and their relationship?

Victoria, Dawn’s assistance, who feels that she cannot compete with the other women she works with due to her weight.   She has always felt uncomfortable around them and when a man pays her some attention, she has a hard time believing in him.

Ivan, Hassan’s friend and basketball player, is playing the court and the ladies.  But when his eyes catch sight of Victoria, he is determined to have her.

My Opinion:

I will preface this review by saying I got to 56% of the book before I quit reading.

The reasons I quit reading are as follows:

Everyone seemed to be cheating and playing around with everyone else, regardless of marital or single status.  I was having trouble keeping track of who was doing who as they were moving around so much.

I felt like the story was not really developed.  The characters were jumping from bed to bed without a lot of story in between.

There was no type of indication of time and it would skip ahead days or weeks without a text break or any other indication that the time was changing.

The language was difficult to follow as there was a lot of slang from New Jersey/New York area that didn’t make any sense to me.

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Practicing Safe Sex and Avoiding the ER

There is a good chance you have heard of the TV

Hospital corridor, in gray
Hospital corridor, in gray (Photo credit: Julie70)

show “Sex Sent me to the ER”.  I’m actually watching it as I write this and wow, it’s amazing what people do!  They start with good intentions but things go drastically wrong.    If you just take 30 seconds to think things through, you’ll have a lot more fun and you won’t end up in the ER.

Pop Rocks

There was one episode where the lady decided that she wanted her partner to use pop rocks on her genitals.  You know those candies that you put in your mouth and they pop and explode?  Yah, those.   But there are a few different issues here.   Your genitals and the skin is thin and sensitive.  Want to irritate it?  This is a great way to do that.  Not only that, but sugar and your genitals are not a good combination, you’re just setting yourself up for a yeast infection.

If you want to play with food in the bedroom, a few things to remember:

  • Avoid getting anything with sugar internal
  • If you are using sugar items around the genitals, clean them off fully before going to penetrative sex, and no a tongue usually is not good enough.
  • Use items that are specifically designed for this type of play.

Anal Toys

Another issue is that a husband and wife were playing with an anal toy and it got lost.  You may wonder how it got lost but it seems that it got pushed up a little too far and then his muscles took over and moved it up even further.   They could not get it out in the ER and he ended up having surgery to get it out.

Some safety ideas:

  • Use toys that are designed specifically for anal use.  They typically have a flared base to avoid the toy getting lost.
  • If you want to use a toy that is not for anal use, put a condom on it to keep it from getting lost.

There are soooo many more things that I could write but this is a great start.  And if you do end up in the ER, don’t be embarrassed to tell the Dr what happened, you will get faster and more accurate treatment.

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Book: Her First Billionaire (Book 1) by Julia Kent

Laura is a twenty six year old looking for love but who is not really sure that she will be able to find what she wants.  She decides to sign up for Internet dating to see what she can find but is not very hopeful.  But then, she gets a reply from Dylan, who is a hunky firefighter, and she wonders if she is just imaging things. When she does an internet search for him, she finds out that he is really real and agrees to meet him.    But she wonders how he can afford to take her to the ritzy restaurant she is taking him to as she knows that he should not be able to afford it on a firefighter’s salary.   Her First Billionaire

Dylan is looking for a new woman in his life.  But, since Jill passed away, a lot has changed in his life and he is looking for someone who truly likes him for him instead of the money he has inherited.   As a result, he turns to Internet dating and finds Laura.  He is taken by her and asks her out.

But, is there more to this story than meets the eye?  Who was Jill and what was she to Dylan?  How will her story affect Laura and Dylan?

My opinion:

I liked the concept of this book.  The first book in the series covers the meeting between Laura and Dylan.  We also see some what happens after their date and Mike is introduced which leads into book two.

In the first book, we learn about the connection between Dylan and Mike and how they were both affected by Jill and her death.  The two of them are roommates who have both becoming billionaires due to Jill’s death but are still trying to figure out how to make that lifestyle work for them.

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Where are Sylvie’s stories?

When Lucy and I started this blog, I had great plans to write.  And don’t get me wrong, I still have plans to write.  But I can’t seem to sit down and actually write anything.  I have started a few stories but they have not gotten very far, I think the longest one is about 1500 words.  I know what the story wants to do, but it just isn’t calling out to me to get written.

Writing
Writing (Photo credit: jjpacres)

That said, I seem to get myself into all sorts of situations online involving guys.   Lucy thinks I need to write stories about these events and I don’t disagree, but with these, I have no clue where to start or how to even start.  I foresee them being a collection of short stories as many of the situations are done and over but as of the time of this blog post, there are a few still going on.

Just a few examples of my stories to tell:

– Exhibitionist who wants to visit me but get naked at the door.  And did I mention he wanted me to invite a bunch of friends over and he would be the waiter for the night and slowly get naked over the course of the evening?  He also wanted to be the entertainment at a party one time, apparently he even got as far as the house but lost his nerve to “perform” for us.

– Finding a guy who wanted to be a submissive to me.  He was good with it for one night but after that he wanted to be in charge.  He also felt that he could be an equal to me as a sub.

– Many guys who just wanted to play online.  They didn’t want to be submissive to me but they wanted me to tell them what to do to themselves.

– Multiple general conversations with guys and the things they say and wnat to do to a stranger that they have never met.

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Before Starting with the D/s Lifestyle

While this post seems like it should be before my post “Considering the D/s Lifestyle” I have learnt a lot since I wrote that post about what a person needs to think about and establish.  I figure a post that is later is better than never.

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sub leashed collared and in breast bondage (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I have learnt this things from personal experience, from a Facebook group I joined and from reading on the Net and what I want and expect for myself.  This post is written from the standpoint of a submissive, so if you are a Dom, not all of this will apply but it definitely does not hurt to educate yourself.

Determine your Hard Limits

You need to  take more than two minutes to think about them.  I like to keep a list (but I like lists) that I can add to – not because I am continually coming up with more limits but because it can be hard to remember everything you are not interested in when chatting with someone.  Some of my limits were established due to conversations I had with someone, even though I felt that it was a given.  Nothing is a given in this lifestyle, so make sure you include those items regardless.

  • Are there any objects that are off limits?
  • Are you willing to do things while you are at work?
  • Are you okay with your skin being marked?
  • How do you feel with playing with more than just your Dom?  Is there a limit to how many people you will play with at once?  Will you play with someone of the same gender?
  • Are you into golden showers or other bathroom play?
  • How do you feel about animals?
  • Are you willing to have anal sex?
  • Are you okay with pain?

What Does your Dom expect of you?

Before you decide to serve a Dom, find out what they expect of you.  You want to discuss what they will expect of you as well and they should be asking you as to what you expect of them.  Make sure that whatever they want is something hat you can accept and is within the realm of what you can handle.  I talked to one gentleman who was new to being a Dom but he kept referring to wanting to use his sub and cause them pain.  I quickly told him that I did not feel we were compatible.

Some things that may come up:

  • Expecting you to follow orders even when your Dom is not there such as no orgasming without permission
  • When you get together, you are to wait in a certain position (at home, not in public)
  • You must call him Master/Sir and he will call you other terms

Has your Dom had subs before?

Ask the person you are considering to be your Dom if they have had a sub before.  If they are new to the lifestyle and so are you, it may be a good idea to move on to someone with a bit more experience.  Being a Dom is more than just giving someone orders to please you.  There is an emotional side to this and as a sub, you don’t want to just feel like you are there to grant your Masters wishes, you want to also be appreciated and protected.

This may seem like a lot of work but it is worthwhile.  It is important to go with your gut when you are considering this lifestyle or moving on to a new Dom.  You need to be comfortable and know that they will have your safety in mind.

A good site to check out:  A Submissive’s Initiative

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Book Review: His Every Whim (BBW Billionaire Erotic Romance Novella) by Liliana Rhodes

Ashley is down on her luck and needs a job and money.  Her roommate sets her up with a job helping at a catering gig and warns her of the mysterious man who has scared off many people.  Ashley decides to take her chances and approaches him with some champagne but quickly runs off when the catering manager shows up.  The mystery man follows her and they have a steamy encounter in the backroom which has them both wanting more but still not knowing who the other is.  He leaves Ashley to recover while he runs to interference to prevent others from bothering her.   his every whim

Trying to clear her thoughts, Ashley looks at the job board at her job and sees that there is an advertisement for a house manager.  While she does not know exactly what the job entails, she is up for it as she needs a different place to live.  She calls and goes for an interview and is given the job if she wants it.  The master of the house comes up just as she is getting ready to leave and collect her belongings.  It turns out that he is the mystery man.

While Zander had wanted to find the girl, this is not how he expected to find her but he is happy and wants to see what will happen.  He advises Ashley that he expects her to also perform some administrative duties for him.  She agrees to this and wonders exactly what he means and if she is up to the challenge.

My opinion:

I enjoyed this book.  Zander is your typical billionaire, at least how they are portrayed in fiction, as he is in control and command, and knows what he wants.  Maybe someday I will meet a true billionaire to find out if this is the true way of their actions!

This book is also very size positive as you can imagine just from the genre it is.  Ashley is a size 16 and while she has body issues, Zander loves her body and her curves.  He hires a personal shopper to help Ashley with her wardrobe, and when the shopper complains about Ashley’s size, he immediately sets to work making sure that the woman will not work again.

Buy:  His Every Whim

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Considering the D/s Lifestyle

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English: Woman standing on submissive male. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I play on a variety of sites but I seem to have the most luck on Adult Friend Finder (AFF).  Maybe this is because the people there are looking to hook up so they are more willing to communicate and meet up.  i cannot remember the last time I actually met someone from any other site.  Regardless, that is for another post.

One of the things on AFF is that you can see who has viewed your profile and who has flirted with you.  And you can decide where to take things from there.  As I have Gold Status, I am able to message people.  I saw that a gentleman who is a Dominant had viewed my profile.  I was curious so I decided to flirt with him.  He has Gold Status as well so I knew that if he was interested, he would message me back.

Within about an hour, I heard back from him.  We went back and forth a few times with him asking me some questions and my providing some answers.  He asked me to text him from there to discuss the situation further.  He told me up front what he expects and then taught me to call him Master and Sir (which I knew about already) but then a few other aspects of speech such as You and Him are always capitalized if I am referring to Him.   As we continued to chat, he asked me about my hard limits which made me happy as it is shows he not just playing with this.

In the meantime, I had messaged a friend who has had some experience with this lifestyle to find out some information.  I told her a bit about our discussion as she had some concerns as to whether this was truly something he was into or if he was on a bit of a power trip due to 50 Shades of Grey.  There are many out there who say they are  Dominant but they just want to have power over a person and make them do what they want.  I showed my friend some of our conversation and she felt he would be okay but to still take all the precautions a person normally would take.

I do not have any experience as a submissive beyond what happens in a regular relationship.  There is always a power shift where sometimes the girl is in charge, sometimes the guy is.  This is something different for me.  Even referring to him as “Master” and “Sir” requires a different thought process.

I have played a bit with being a Dominant in the past but only online.  I have chatted with many guys over the years and have wanted to give up power in having someone else tell them what to do.  I have told many guys to jerk off, how to touch themselves, to use toys on themselves and a variety of other activities.

At this point, I am not sure where things are going.  On the surface, everything sounds great but when you start to actually think about it and the boundaries you may be expected to push, it becomes more real and thought provoking.  First, he required a picture of my boobs.  Not a big deal, but not something I tend to do, which made me think about what else he may want me to do that is outside my realm of comfort.

This article covers a lot of what I have learnt already but could never possibly write as succinct as the author has.

Domination and Submission: What You Can Expect as a New Submissive

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Booty Calls: What You Need To Know

Chances are you have heard of a booty call, even if you have not have one.  The common thought is that it is two people, typically in the evening, get together for sex.   But are there

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Women on Top: How Real Life Has Changed Women’s Sexual Fantasies (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

any rules or guidelines when it comes to a booty call?  How do you know how you should behave, beyond the obvious?

Just like anything, there really are no rules for a booty call beyond what the two of you have agreed upon.  But there are some things that you may want to keep in mind.

  • A booty call is someone that you get together with for sex.  It doesn’t have to be sex though, it could be any form of sexual play that the two people agree on.
  • For some, they  agree to a booty call situation as there is no romantic partner on the horizon.  Instead of being without a play partner, they agree to sexually benefit the other person.
  • Talking about preferences is a good idea with your booty call person.  Even though this person is not someone that you will have a future with, you still want to keep them happy and provide them pleasure.
  • Consider if you will spend the night or if you leave when you are done.  While I haven’t had many booty calls, they do not tend to end in a sleepover, at least, not in my experience.  It can be awkward in the morning as you do the walk of shame if you were at their place.
  • Talk about birth control and diseases before you hook up.  You don’t want to deal with it in the heat of the moment.

Just like any other type of relationship (face it, a booty call is a relationship if it happens multiple times) it is important to be up front about what you expect.  Do you expect to want to get together once a week, once a month or some other potential frequency?  Are you going to be exclusive to each other sexually?  Will you break things off if you meet someone that you think you could have a future with?

Have you ever had a booty call?  Were there any rules or guidelines that you recommend for people or that you followed?

 

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