When Sylvie began her recent Dom/sub relationship, she mentioned it to me. At one point she asked if I had told hubby about it. I hadn’t yet, but later that night I brought it up during our nightly phone call. Since then we have had several conversations about D/s relationships and play.
We enjoy D/s play, though not every time we have sex and not as a lifestyle. It’s just not for either of us. As I said to him, I feel that I’m too dominant in my overall personality to be a sub to someone fulltime. While I enjoy being the sub in the bedroom from time to time, I also enjoy being the Domme. Because I’m equally comfortable in both roles, I consider myself to be a switch.
I know there are people who, like me, have very dominant personalities, but crave the submissive role. I respect that and can understand how it would a great form of stress relief. Some of the characters I have developed in my stories are that way. I just know it isn’t me. I would be too much of a brat for the situation to be enjoyable!
Just as every person is different, every D/s relationship is different. There are subsets of the lifestyle, ranging from those who, like hubby and me, enjoy occasional D/s play in the bedroom to those who live their D/s relationships 24/7. Some are sexual, while others may not have any sexual activity involved. Thanks to the internet, some D/s relationships are completely virtual, with those involved living great distances from one another. If you can imagine it, there is likely someone who is living it.
